Ignorance, we're all guilty of it at some point. Remember that blind man we let cross the street by himself? The puppy that was waiting to die on the middle of the road? We always wait for somebody else to do it. It doesn't make any sense. If we are all created for a purpose and we keep waiting for someone else to do it, aren't we a waste of His time?
Well, you may ask..why this sudden rant? This is not a rant, It is something that has been on my mind for sometime now. I don't get how people are so insensitive towards issues and we all seem so comfortable playing Xbox while someone is dying and how writing an exam becomes more important than feeding a hungry man. Worst still, we bad mouth the not-so-fortunate sometimes even without realising it.
I come from the not-so-fortunate background but I gotta say that I am alot blessed than many people. It frustrates me though, when somebody comes up with an ignorant comment about a certain group of people or even a topic. It shows an utter lack of respect and its sad how the community has conformed to this as a 'norm'. Well, let me break this to you, it is not a 'norm', it is wrong. You won't know how many people you could offend with ONE ignorant comment.
I have always been the loud guy and I got into alot of trouble trying to 'educate' these ignorant people. I'm not saying that I'm not guilty of this but we all need each other to point out to us when we are being ignorant. Sometimes, I believe that if you can't speak knowledge into someone, you can try beating it into him. Let me repeat myself, ignorance is bliss..Just because you got it all easy doesn't mean others got it easy too. Just because you can doesn't mean everyone else could too.
Ignorance may seem harmless but the damage it does could be devastating, both physically and emotionally. If there is one thing we could do, it would be to be more sensitive towards another person and try and think from different perspectives before making a comment. And, don't wait for someone to fix what you saw broken..
Have a good day! and Merry Christmas! :)
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Are we really genuine?
Life is good, I'm writing this on a rainy Deepavali night because I can :P..ahaha, So yeah, its me again and I've been rumbling with this thought about sincerity and if we are really genuine people for some time now. I mean, everywhere I see, things are done in a structure, everything seem to have a process. For example, we normally do good to be blessed in return. But I was thinking to myself, what if the blessing quota was reduced or taken off completely? will we still wana do good? This has always been a question that I found hard to answer because at some points of my life, I struggled with such issues.
While many people tend to brush off this issue, I think this has been the fundamental thing that even God want us to fix. Many preachers often preach about how much God will bless us when we give or serve. They quote the bible and proclaim all the blessing that is stored if we do some good deed. Funny how they don't normally highlight how the bible emphasises more about the joy of giving, but instead, focus alot in the rewards in giving. Yes I agree that we will be blessed in return when we give or serve but to do it only because we will be blessed sounds a little,. i don't know..cunning? ;)
Many people have asked me what is the joy of giving, how do you give and not expect anything in return. I think most of us have the answer, its just that we choose not to look at it as such. Go out and you'll see a boyfriend buying flowers for his girl just to see her happy. You'll see a girlfriend baking cakes for her boyfriend to make him happy. Do you see what is really happening here? These people seem to be giving because they want to and not because they need to. Yes we all do know that their partner would appreciate and probably reward them but that's not the point. The point is, the heart of giving. A good boyfriend will buy flowers for his girl just to see her smile and not expect a kiss in return. A good girlfriend will bake cakes just to make her guy happy and not expect him to shower her with presents. This to me, demonstrates the joy of giving. The joy you get by giving something and just hoping for them to be happy with what was given. :)
Its kinda sad when I see people treating God as a business partner, I give You 10%, You give me back 7 fold. I mean, come to think of it, He is God and its not fair if we only limited Him as a business partner. The same goes to family and friends, nowadays, nothing seems genuine.. it is always like, 'I help you, so you help me back' or 'I was there when she needed me, now I need her to be here'. To me, such relationships are no more than what we have with our business people or in other words, our contacts. I also believe it tarnishes the name of Love when we do things like this.
I read about love the other day and the author was speaking about how you are actually committing yourself without any guarantees when you fall in love but you still choose to do it because at that very moment you felt the joy of love. The same goes with giving or helping or serving or whatever you may call it and this is the fundamental in living a fulfilling life.:)
So yeah, that was just my thought lah, I could be wrong. I hope you guys have a very good Deepavali! I'll write soon when I fell like it so till then lets just ponder on things like this to make sure we are actually genuine people. Say 'I love you', mean it and don't expect anything in return. Chances are, they felt your sincerity and say "I love you too' or they just smile. Either way, deep inside you know you did something genuine and you'll feel good about it. :) Have a good day!
While many people tend to brush off this issue, I think this has been the fundamental thing that even God want us to fix. Many preachers often preach about how much God will bless us when we give or serve. They quote the bible and proclaim all the blessing that is stored if we do some good deed. Funny how they don't normally highlight how the bible emphasises more about the joy of giving, but instead, focus alot in the rewards in giving. Yes I agree that we will be blessed in return when we give or serve but to do it only because we will be blessed sounds a little,. i don't know..cunning? ;)
Many people have asked me what is the joy of giving, how do you give and not expect anything in return. I think most of us have the answer, its just that we choose not to look at it as such. Go out and you'll see a boyfriend buying flowers for his girl just to see her happy. You'll see a girlfriend baking cakes for her boyfriend to make him happy. Do you see what is really happening here? These people seem to be giving because they want to and not because they need to. Yes we all do know that their partner would appreciate and probably reward them but that's not the point. The point is, the heart of giving. A good boyfriend will buy flowers for his girl just to see her smile and not expect a kiss in return. A good girlfriend will bake cakes just to make her guy happy and not expect him to shower her with presents. This to me, demonstrates the joy of giving. The joy you get by giving something and just hoping for them to be happy with what was given. :)
Its kinda sad when I see people treating God as a business partner, I give You 10%, You give me back 7 fold. I mean, come to think of it, He is God and its not fair if we only limited Him as a business partner. The same goes to family and friends, nowadays, nothing seems genuine.. it is always like, 'I help you, so you help me back' or 'I was there when she needed me, now I need her to be here'. To me, such relationships are no more than what we have with our business people or in other words, our contacts. I also believe it tarnishes the name of Love when we do things like this.
I read about love the other day and the author was speaking about how you are actually committing yourself without any guarantees when you fall in love but you still choose to do it because at that very moment you felt the joy of love. The same goes with giving or helping or serving or whatever you may call it and this is the fundamental in living a fulfilling life.:)
So yeah, that was just my thought lah, I could be wrong. I hope you guys have a very good Deepavali! I'll write soon when I fell like it so till then lets just ponder on things like this to make sure we are actually genuine people. Say 'I love you', mean it and don't expect anything in return. Chances are, they felt your sincerity and say "I love you too' or they just smile. Either way, deep inside you know you did something genuine and you'll feel good about it. :) Have a good day!
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Nothing Lasts?
For some weird reason, I feel like writing..Come to think of it, alot has happened. Good or bad I don't really know, what I do know is I've completely lost my sense of feeling. I just don't know what to feel anymore, everything is just so confusing. People come, show love, slow down when the emotion starts to fade then leave. Some come, show love,show hate,show pain, show anger then leave. Others come, show friendship, show life but in the end they all leave, one way or the other. This was always one thing I could never comprehend, why do people leave? Is that what we built all this for? all the sacrifice, all the time, all the energy? to just walk away in the end? it doesn't make any sense to me.
I always thought that good things lasts. I always dreamt of growing old together, sitting on the park bench playing cards during the sunset, walking down the street with our walking sticks and feeling like we just met a week ago. I always thought that we'd sit down and tell stories of hope and love to our grandkids. I somehow figured that we'd figure our way out through the hardships, through the pain. I kept telling myself that 30-40 years from now we'd still be together, cooking each other meals, fishing, watching a good ol'time movie. Guess that's what it always was, just a thought, a wish that would probably never come through.
I'm losing hope, as much as I choose not to I feel like it, I'm losing it. I'm becoming numb, too numb to feel anything at all. Its been ages since I last cried, people always say crying helps to restore one's well being..I don't even have that privilege, I forgot how to cry :) I forgot how does it feel like to be excited, to be nervous, to be alive..Yes I do alot of stuffs, stuffs I don't regret doing, instead, I love doing..Stuffs that would make another smile, that is the only satisfaction I get in life. And even for that, I don't really know what to feel anymore :)
But this is life, its not about one person, its about everyone else. I'll keep sacrificing, till I've got nothing to sacrifice anymore :)
I always thought that good things lasts. I always dreamt of growing old together, sitting on the park bench playing cards during the sunset, walking down the street with our walking sticks and feeling like we just met a week ago. I always thought that we'd sit down and tell stories of hope and love to our grandkids. I somehow figured that we'd figure our way out through the hardships, through the pain. I kept telling myself that 30-40 years from now we'd still be together, cooking each other meals, fishing, watching a good ol'time movie. Guess that's what it always was, just a thought, a wish that would probably never come through.
I'm losing hope, as much as I choose not to I feel like it, I'm losing it. I'm becoming numb, too numb to feel anything at all. Its been ages since I last cried, people always say crying helps to restore one's well being..I don't even have that privilege, I forgot how to cry :) I forgot how does it feel like to be excited, to be nervous, to be alive..Yes I do alot of stuffs, stuffs I don't regret doing, instead, I love doing..Stuffs that would make another smile, that is the only satisfaction I get in life. And even for that, I don't really know what to feel anymore :)
But this is life, its not about one person, its about everyone else. I'll keep sacrificing, till I've got nothing to sacrifice anymore :)
Thursday, October 13, 2011
:)
Sometimes, the words left unspoken are the most important words..sometimes, the eyes scream out what the mouth won't say :)
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Beauty in a wreck
Sometimes I wonder if anybody was perfect, close at least? Many claim to be better than another but that's about it. Well, I gotta agree, I'm no where close to perfection too. In fact, I don't think I'd ever be. :) I sometimes feel that it doesn't really matter if a person is perfect or not, come to think of it, God Himself knew that none of us could be perfect so He taught us through His Son, how to see through imperfection. I too struggle alot in this area especially when dealing with people who are inferior than me in a certain capability but through time, I've learnt how to compliment people like this to make the most out of an imperfect scenario.
The key, I figured was to refrain ourselves from judging another person. Mother Theresa said that if we keep judging, we'd have no time to love. I totally agree with that statement, given all those lives she has touched through love. Loving someone is not an easy task. To love, you've gotta see through not only the good parts but also the ugly ones, the ones people normally choose to ignore. This will lead to wholesome love and what a difference does love make in one's life, come to think about it, if there's one thing people would want the most in life, it would be to be loved, not for who we see them to be but for who they really are :)
Why am I talking about this now you may ask, well I've been helping out a little to coach a football team and I learnt that although they're not good footballers yet, they have a veryy good heart. We lost a game on Saturday and we spoke a little about our expectation and stuff like that but what really hit me was their commitment to the team, to one another, to me. I know alot of people look up to me but I always brush it off, choosing to ignore them instead of helping them. I always thought that there was always someone better who could help them but I guess I thought wrong. These guys just seemed to be so attached even in this short period and I know deep inside, I could make a difference, not only as their coach but as a brother, a friend who would not pass judgement but will accept them for who they are and will aspire them to be better. :) Just pray that these guys will turn out to be not just awesome footballers but also awesome men la, that'll will be my biggest wish for them :)
As for me, life is good, apart from a few things that been happening. Sometimes, I wish someone would just look me in the eyes and know that something is not right. Sometimes, I wish no one would notice. Confusion they say is tough, but having someone there for me who is willing to walk with me through all this is just priceless and thank God, I've got that person. That person where I can go anywhere with, eat anything, talk anything with and not having that feeling of being judged, instead, feeling accepted and appreciated for me being me. *You know who you are, I don't know what I'd do without you la, really :)
So yea, thats about it for now and if I have to say something, I'd wana encourage all those who are reading this to compliment imperfection instead of condemning them cus that way, no one is left out as not good enough :) ohh and yea, I'm losing the beer belly! next up, 6 packs! :P
The key, I figured was to refrain ourselves from judging another person. Mother Theresa said that if we keep judging, we'd have no time to love. I totally agree with that statement, given all those lives she has touched through love. Loving someone is not an easy task. To love, you've gotta see through not only the good parts but also the ugly ones, the ones people normally choose to ignore. This will lead to wholesome love and what a difference does love make in one's life, come to think about it, if there's one thing people would want the most in life, it would be to be loved, not for who we see them to be but for who they really are :)
Why am I talking about this now you may ask, well I've been helping out a little to coach a football team and I learnt that although they're not good footballers yet, they have a veryy good heart. We lost a game on Saturday and we spoke a little about our expectation and stuff like that but what really hit me was their commitment to the team, to one another, to me. I know alot of people look up to me but I always brush it off, choosing to ignore them instead of helping them. I always thought that there was always someone better who could help them but I guess I thought wrong. These guys just seemed to be so attached even in this short period and I know deep inside, I could make a difference, not only as their coach but as a brother, a friend who would not pass judgement but will accept them for who they are and will aspire them to be better. :) Just pray that these guys will turn out to be not just awesome footballers but also awesome men la, that'll will be my biggest wish for them :)
As for me, life is good, apart from a few things that been happening. Sometimes, I wish someone would just look me in the eyes and know that something is not right. Sometimes, I wish no one would notice. Confusion they say is tough, but having someone there for me who is willing to walk with me through all this is just priceless and thank God, I've got that person. That person where I can go anywhere with, eat anything, talk anything with and not having that feeling of being judged, instead, feeling accepted and appreciated for me being me. *You know who you are, I don't know what I'd do without you la, really :)
So yea, thats about it for now and if I have to say something, I'd wana encourage all those who are reading this to compliment imperfection instead of condemning them cus that way, no one is left out as not good enough :) ohh and yea, I'm losing the beer belly! next up, 6 packs! :P
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Special people make it worthwile
Its been long and alot has changed :). Life has been good, people have left, people have come. Nothing ever feels the same, not that its a bad thing or what :)
*I still want to be remembered as that-guy-who-was-there-when-nobody-cared. That is my purpose in life :)
Ohh btw, I've met some real special people recently. If you're reading this, you know who you are..You may not know it, but people like you are the reason I keep doing what I do..People like you make it all worth it. :)
Bless ya'll!
*I still want to be remembered as that-guy-who-was-there-when-nobody-cared. That is my purpose in life :)
Ohh btw, I've met some real special people recently. If you're reading this, you know who you are..You may not know it, but people like you are the reason I keep doing what I do..People like you make it all worth it. :)
Bless ya'll!
Friday, February 4, 2011
Valentine's (:
I miss this place.. (: This is where I'm really me. A saddist? no chance, I'm a happy creature, always was always will be (:..Funny how people think that happy people like me dont get sad at all..you'd be surprised :)
So yea, its about me..again,ahaha. Here is a confession, I never had a valentine :) No regrets tho, i dont evn know if its a good thing or a bad thing.. I never been in a relationship, a proper one at least. Never thought I could be as committed to be in one. I am the messy, clumsy, lazy, ungentlemanly, non-prince charming material kinda guy. ahaha, trust me i am..;) People say I'm a good friend, thats where it ends...I hope I am..:)
A kid once said, 'If I could be anyone in the world, I'd be someone's friend'. I think she knew what she was saying :). Don't we all wish we were kids again? Those times when everyone was a friend and we'd fight over candies and chocolates and end up sharing it with everyone? Those times when we laughed and cried together? Mayn i miss my childhood! aahaha..but as they say, life goes on..if ur reading this, pray that i shall soon celebrate Valentine's..I've always wanted to, I just dont show it..cover macho, ahaha. Well, I want to celebrate it with someone I really love and not some random ppl btw..xD So yea, pray for me. :)
Ohh and yea, I'm doing sit ups to try and get some abs...xD wish me luck! :)
So yea, its about me..again,ahaha. Here is a confession, I never had a valentine :) No regrets tho, i dont evn know if its a good thing or a bad thing.. I never been in a relationship, a proper one at least. Never thought I could be as committed to be in one. I am the messy, clumsy, lazy, ungentlemanly, non-prince charming material kinda guy. ahaha, trust me i am..;) People say I'm a good friend, thats where it ends...I hope I am..:)
A kid once said, 'If I could be anyone in the world, I'd be someone's friend'. I think she knew what she was saying :). Don't we all wish we were kids again? Those times when everyone was a friend and we'd fight over candies and chocolates and end up sharing it with everyone? Those times when we laughed and cried together? Mayn i miss my childhood! aahaha..but as they say, life goes on..if ur reading this, pray that i shall soon celebrate Valentine's..I've always wanted to, I just dont show it..cover macho, ahaha. Well, I want to celebrate it with someone I really love and not some random ppl btw..xD So yea, pray for me. :)
Ohh and yea, I'm doing sit ups to try and get some abs...xD wish me luck! :)
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